Relationship advice, future plans, date ideas and more!
YAYYYY! I have been waiting to do this blog post for such a long time and I’m THRILLED that we get to finally share more of our lives / hearts with you.
In this blog post, we cover almost every topic — how we met, our favorite dates, sexual purity and more! Without further adieu, let’s get into it!
1. How did you guys meet?
Michael and I met in high school. (Yes, high school sweethearts. I know — adorable 😉) We had known of each other since freshman year but didn’t have any classes together until junior year. We talked the most during sixth period: AP Literature. “We bonded over our love for The Office and our hatred for AP Lit.” - Michael
2. Favorite quality about each other?
Michael: Her smile!
Tara: His steadiness — he is so steady, responsible and dependable!
3. What’s some of your favorite things to do together?
We loveeee a good adventure! Whether it’s hiking, finding a new place to eat or off roading in the snow, we’re all about it. Michael brings so much spontaneity to the relationship and it’s always so fun to see where we end up! Some days our idea of adventuring is watching Psych or driving hours on end to find a pretty view or place. We also LOOVEE hanging out with our families — we’re so blessed to have such awesome parents, siblings and relatives!
4. What was your most memorable date?
For our 3 year anniversary, Michael planned a sweet evening! The last part of the night was going to Salt & Straw (ICE CREAAAMMM). But it started to rain cats and dogs so we went to McDonalds instead!😂 We laughed about it but had just as much fun as if we were eating fancy ice cream!
5. How are you guys different?
I (Tara) am super organized and Michael is crazy spontaneous! It really bothers me to not know the “plan” but Michael has taught me over the years to be more flexible! Likewise, I’ve helped him be more organized and on top of things (haha)!
6. How do you feel about PDA?
Michael said it best: “Don’t go crazy but let others know you aren’t just friends.”😂 In all seriousness, we hug around our friends & family but we never do more than that. Personally, PDA makes me a little uncomfortable (Tara) but I think it can be done decently and appropriately. Just don’t make anyone uncomfortable and be respectful!
7. Tools for building/strengthening a relationship?
First and foremost, we’ve found that the best way to strengthen a relationship is to build it on Jesus Christ — the most solid foundation! Our faith in Jesus is such a big part of our lives and we have been striving to build our relationship on Jesus, His Word and His guidance for the last three years! Spend time reading and praying with your significant other! We also recommend spending a lot of quality time together. Get to know each other in every kind of situation — individually, around family, etc. Learn to be good communicators who are unafraid to say something, no matter how hard. Also, figure out where you stand on the important things and make sure you’re compatible — like religious beliefs, morals and physical boundaries.
8. How did you guys know that you were the right fit?
Our personalities mesh so well but honestly — it just comes down to the Holy Spirit! Right away, we knew there was something special about each other but as we kept dating, the Holy Spirit made it SOOO CLEAR that we were the right fit. We’re not perfect and we don’t always get along, but we know that God has been preparing us for each other. God is the best confirmer of these things!
9. What are the biggest barriers/challenges in your relationship?
By the grace of God, we haven’t faced too many barriers in our relationship. However, I (Tara) have struggled with waiting for marriage — that’s just how I’m hardwired as a person and as a woman! I tend to go through spells where I don’t trust God and His perfect timing for our relationship and marriage. Additionally, we occasionally struggle communication! (Don’t we all!) These are things we work on daily but are still thankful and hopeful for God’s perfect timing. We’re so blessed!
10. How do you guys grow in your relationship with God together?
Although it’s not easy with a busy schedule, Michael and I try to pray together and read the Word together as much as possible. When we get the chance, we love to sit down over coffee, read the Bible together and talk about what we learned from the passage and what God has been teaching us in life! One of the sweetest things about dating Michael is having a prayer warrior for life — that is the most precious thing he could do for me and vice versa. 😊 It all comes down to praying together, seeking His will together and reading together. The best thing we can do is seek the Lord & His glory together daily (1 Corinthians 10:31) and be attentive and obedient to what He wants us to do!
11. How do you stay so present with so many unknowns in the future?
This has been a challenging concept for us over the years! There are a lot of unknowns in relationships — such as the timing of marriage, what jobs we will have, finances etc. However, we’ve been talking about how there is no need to worry or stress about the future — no matter how unknown it may be. Casting our anxieties on Christ (1 Peter 5:7) is a way to enjoy the present! By giving our concerns about the future over to Jesus, we are freed up to enjoy the future, the here and now. We try to continue to get to know each other and go on lighthearted dates. Michael is constantly reminding me to “enjoy each day, each date and be thankful for them.”
12. Is there such thing as “over communicating” with each other?
Honestly, we don’t really think there’s such thing as over communicating. Communication is one of the most important parts of a relationship and we think there should be lots of it! Thankfully, Michael and I are so comfortable with each other that most everything is comfortable and easy to talk about because we know each other and feel safe!
13. Thoughts on sexual purity?
Michael and I have both been raised to save sex and our purities for marriage. It’s our personal belief that sex is reserved for a man and woman in marriage — a gift that God has so beautifully given to be shared and enjoyed! God knew that these actions are consequential, emotional and bonding — that’s why He desires us to save it for the one we will give our whole selves to! From the beginning, Michael and I have agreed to save that part of ourselves so that we can honor each other, our families and Jesus. Although we’re not perfect, we have continually pushed for purity and honoring God in our actions. Sexual purity shouldn’t be looked at as a list of do’s and don’ts — it should be looked at as a way to honor Jesus and our future spouse. Refraining from loving someone in this way until marriage isn’t a burden — it’s actually a blessing to be able to give yourself wholly to another without any regrets or imperfections! I’m so thankful I have such a respectful man. 💗
We love you all and can’t thank you enough for asking questions and loving us on this little thing called the Internet! Thank you for tuning in and let us know if you have any other questions in the comments below!
💗 Michael & Tara